3 weeks ago
Friday, July 11, 2008
What if it's a scam?
I was explaining to somebody where we are in the adoption process. He deeply cares for our family and when I explained that IBESR has the authority to accept or reject our family for international adoption, he asked, "So, what would happen if they rejected you? Would you lose all your money?"
"Well, yeah. That's one thing that would happen."
"So, what if it's a scam?"
"I am positive that we are not being scammed."
But, how in the world do I convey that to other people who are not immersed in this adoption world? How do I let them know that I have absolute faith in my orphanage?
We have all read stories of well respected agencies where things are perfect and above board and then huge problems develop. So how can I have such confidence in the facilitators I have chosen?
I don't think there's a simple way to get that across. I know this person cares about us, and if he had mentioned any other kind of loss other than the bottom line, I may have sat down and gone through all of the reasons for my faith in our process. But as it was, I just dropped the issue.
Because quite honestly, if we are rejected by IBESR, money is the last thing I will be crying over. The loss of 2 children that I consider my children would be devastating. I wish I could send more money to our orphanage. Their compassion and their love and their persistence and vision for caring for children humbles me. I'm looking forward to sharing all our love.