Showing posts with label Adoption. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Adoption. Show all posts

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Wednesday at 1 pm


Well, it's finally here. We received confirmation that the kids will be flying into Ottawa tomorrow at 1 pm. When the earthquake hit Haiti 2 weeks ago, it was hard to see past the destruction and horror to this possibility. It has been a crazy 2 weeks and I know what I have gone through is nothing compared to what the people in Haiti have experienced and will continue to live through for many years to come.

I have learned a lot about myself and Robin during this entire adoption process; not all of it good. I'm afraid that Kaylin has also gained some insight into her parents during the past 2 weeks; again, not all of it good. And the reality for our family is that in so many ways, the journey really begins tomorrow.

Robin and I are feeling... well, I don't even know how to describe it. So I won't try. A lot has happened in just the past 2 days since we've been in Ottawa. But on the lighter side of things, we received final travel confirmation about the kids while we were in the parliament building taking a tour. That's so fitting for Robin, Mr. Canada himself.



And the adoption has taken so long so Josh will be more like an uncle to the kids rather than a brother. But maybe he'll be able to share his love for the Sens with his little brother and sister. We did our part, Josh. We picked up a hat.

Sunday, January 17, 2010

Counting our blessings


I want to link to Molly's blog on God's Littlest Angels website. She has great news that the last unaccounted staff member has been heard from. Adrienne was finally able to connect with GLA and let them know that she was ok. I've included a picture of Adrienne with Gaëlle from October 2008. She is a very important person in our daughter's life and I'm so thankful that she is safe.

Monday, November 16, 2009

October update




I know it's half way through November. Our e-mail provider has been having issues lately and apparently mail isn't always getting through. So, we just received our photos this weekend. Always fun to see what Melanie and the GLA staff come up with for their photo shoots. They're so cute.

Saturday, October 10, 2009

Another birthday





I know... birthdays happen every year. But Gaëlle had her 4th birthday September 11. I know I sound like a broken record, but I can't believe she's had 3 birthdays at GLA. Hopefully this will be her last.

Saturday, October 3, 2009

September 2009 update




I know that Melanie has a lot on her plate. In addition to documenting life at GLA and putting together monthly updates and organizing the school sponsorship program for local kids, Melanie has been helping to coordinate all of the visits from families who need to sign before the judge. There has been an influx of us and I'm sure she has been extra busy.

But can I just say that she outdid herself this month with the updates. It's always a treat to receive the photos but the pictures this month are truly outstanding. I don't know how she and all the other staff at GLA manage the stress and the pressures but thanks again for all you do.

Sunday, September 27, 2009

Will they come home sooner?



After our trip to Haiti to sign in front of the Justice of the Peace, we have had several people ask if this will speed up the process for us?

Unfortunatley... NO.

This is a new unexpected requirement that I'm afraid will just slow down the process even further. Just to give an example of time. When we started our adoption the expected time for the following steps took about 2- 4 weeks.

Courts = The dossier is in the Haitian Courts having the actual adoption declared and legalized.

Attest or Attestation=
After court papers are finished, the Act of Adoption must be sent to the National Archives and they declare that the signature on the Act of Adoption is legal.

Legal or Legalization =
All court papers must be sent to the Ministry of Justice to be legalized. They declare that the signature on all of the paperwork actually is the signature of the Judge who signed it.

MAE
= Ministry of Foreign Affairs must legalize the signature of the person in the Ministry of Justice who signed your paperwork in the step above.

Just as a reminder, we entered Courts September 3. So, when things were "good" with adoptions, we could expect to be finished with the Court side of things by October 3. Things are unpredictable and that could still happen, but we aren't expecting it.

But who knows?

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Sweet little boy



We had been told over and over how wonderful Peterson was. He loves his little sister and will do anything for her. He's so generous and always thinks of his friends, wanting to share special treats with them.

We certainly got to see his sweet side. But we also got to see his gentle playful side. We taught him how to play dominoes and we spent many hours with him. The cutest thing ever was hearing him say, "I cannot go."




We were allowed to spend time with the children in the room upstairs and on the outside balcony. Peterson rarely wanted to go down to the playground and play with the other kids, but happily amused himself with the toys upstairs. It was great to see him imaginative play come to life.



I'm thrilled with his love for reading. He loves to be read to and I can already picture many hours sharing some of our favorite books with him and discovering new favorite books.

Did I mention how much I enjoyed reading to Peterson and listening to him read? He did so well and his English is so much better than I expected. He shared his writing journal with us and I have a few favorite entries.

Writing Prompt: What job do you want to do when you are older?
Answer: I want to be boss of Vacation Bible School.

Writing Prompt: What will you do to help Haiti when you are grown up?
Answer: I will pray for the children of Haiti and will give out ice cream. Red ice cream.



Joyce and Molly would check in with us periodically and I think it gave Peterson a sense of security to settle in with Joyce from time to time. She is so good to the kids and with the kids. So laid back and yet so on top of things. A real gift.




I loved to witness his natural curiosity... about us, his new life, and the world around him. He was so full of questions and I would love to just sit and talk with him. Both kids enjoyed seeing themselves on the video and also some footage we had of our family get together in August. It's always amazing to see the wheels turning in Peterson's mind as he puts things together. I know we're going to have fun.

Monday, September 21, 2009

GLA videos



Children washing their hands before lunch.



Children eating lunch at the Toddler House.



Boys getting their hair cut and girls getting their hair braided.

Sunday, September 20, 2009

Haiti - Meeting the kids



Somebody asked me what my expectations were from this trip. I really tried to stay low key and keep my expectations low. The purpose of the trip was to sign so we could exit courts. Meeting the kids at this point in the process was completely unexpected so I didn't know what would happen.

Needless to say, the heat assails you when you walk out of the airplane at Port au Prince. Because we only had carry on luggage, we made it through the airport without any hassle. The grey shirts didn't ask us once if we needed help with our luggage and once we were through, we saw Chery with a sign with our names on it. He took us to the GLA vehicle and driver, Wadsen, who had mad driving skills. We stopped at the US Consulate to wait for another adoptive family signing their 1600. After a brief wait, we made the trek up the mountain to the Main House. Eric, the social worker, was in the car with us and I enjoyed talking with him and getting to know a little of his life. He's another young man who is blessed with a warm gracious smile.

Did I mention mad driving skills? All of the GLA drivers impressed me with their calm in the face of sheer craziness.



After a quick lunch, we headed to the Toddler House to meet the kids for the very first time. We've "known" them for almost 2 years, but this was our first face to face meeting. Apparently, Peterson & Gaëlle had been anxiously awaiting our arrival. We were all a little shy at first, but some candy took away some of the edge and we all started warming up a bit. It really is hard to describe my feelings those first couple of hours. After feeling so disconnected from the kids for so long, I knew there wouldn't be an instant connection, but I still felt so far from their world, even though I was holding them and loving them.



Our afternoon flew by and we found ourselves in a rhythm. One of us following Gaëlle around and one of us chilling with Peterson. Then we switched. Gaëlle is just a bundle of energy. She loves to be the center of attention and loved to show off to the other kids her special treats. If Robin or I happened to pick up another child, she would become very possessive. If Robin or I happened to not want to do something she wanted, she would pout. But she also loves to laugh and has the most heart warming smile.



Peterson is just the picture of cool and calm. He loves to play games, read and be read to. During our time there, he also peppered me with all kinds of questions. At times, he was happy to just chill and talk. While Gaëlle made frequent trips to the playground to show me things or to show the kids things, Peterson was content to stay upstairs in the "special" room.




Around 5 we left the Toddler House and headed to the Main House for supper. There were 5 sets of adoptive parents signing and filing our various paperwork. Nobody was there bringing their kids home. Our supper table was also full of volunteers and GLA staff and the food was always delicious.




After supper we had about 10 minutes to scoot upstairs and see the baby rooms. Unfortunately we didn't take any pictures, but I'm glad I was able to see the GLA operation with my own eyes. It is amazing!!! The staff is amazing!!! I'll share more thoughts on all of that later.

Molly and Joyce blessed us all with another brief time with our children before the kids went to bed. 2 of the adoptive families were leaving the next day and so this was their good-bye.

Peterson & Gaëlle seemed happy to see us again and we enjoyed some more time together before we headed 2 doors up the street to the guest house. What a gorgeous spot looking out over the mountainside. It was a treat to wake up in the morning to a hot shower, and a cup of coffee relaxing on the balcony.

Sunday, September 13, 2009

Leaving for Haiti

We're getting ready to leave for Haiti today. We're so excited and anxious. Our suitcases are full. We have some treats to share with the kids. I picked up some of Josh, Emily & Kaylin's favorite snack foods for Peterson & Gaëlle to try and share with their friends.

We've already heard that the kids at GLA don't like Kraft Dinner. Gasp! Didn't pack that, but we'll see who likes Smarties and Lucky Charms and Crispers.

We'll try to take lots of pictures and give out lots of hugs.

Sunday, September 6, 2009

What a week!


This week has certainly been jam packed. Not only did we get the great news about presidential dispense and parquet, we also received news that all adoptive families now have to make a trip to Haiti to appear before the local Justice of the Peace. This has been floating around all summer but I didn't get too worked up because who knows what the requirement would be when our file got to that point.

Well, GLA decided to follow this new requirement this week and our file is now at that point. So... we're going to Haiti Sept. 15 and we'll get to see Peterson & Gaëlle face to face for the first time.

Quite honestly, it's all a bit surreal. I certainly never expected this and it's not really the way I want to meet them. We only will be there for a couple of days. We won't really get the chance to relax and get to know them in such a short time. They won't really know what to make of us either. It's just so unfair all the way around. Not just for us, but for GLA, and the adoption officials working so hard to facilitate our adoption.

Quite a few people have asked what is left in the process. I've copied a list that GLA uses to help us understand.

Pre-IBESR = We are preparing your dossier to go into Haitian Social Services. There are some legal documents that must be made after you accept your proposal and some of them must be legalized at the Ministry of Justice. If we have problems getting a document, this can delay this step.

IBESR = Haitian Social Services

Parquet = Pre-Courts, they interview the birth parents and give permission for the dossier to go through the Haitian court system.

Courts = The dossier is in the Haitian Courts having the actual adoption declared and legalized.

Attest or Attestation= After court papers are finished, the Act of Adoption must be sent to the National Archives and they declare that the signature on the Act of Adoption is legal.

Legal or Legalization
= All court papers must be sent to the Ministry of Justice to be legalized. They declare that the signature on all of the paperwork actually is the signature of the Judge who signed it.

MAE = Ministry of Foreign Affairs must legalize the signature of the person in the Ministry of Justice who signed your paperwork in the step above.

MOI = All Adoption passports must go through the Ministry of the Interior for approval before Immigration will print the passport.

Printing= Your dossier is in Immigration waiting for the passport to be printed.

Visa
=Your dossier is in your country's Embassy waiting for a visa to be issued!

As you can see, there is quite a bit left!!!! However, even though it all takes time, the only real big step left is MOI. Of course, this is Haiti, and anything could happen and slow things down for us.

What a week!

Thursday, September 3, 2009

OUT OF PARQUET!!!

I can't even believe it. We just received word that our file came out today. This has been such an emotional rollar coaster of a week.

Kaylin started high school.
Emily left for Thailand.
And now after 13 months, we are out of parquet.

Emily arrived safely in Thailand today. I was praying for her safe arrival all day and couldn't stop thinking about her. She sounds great. Her travel - connections - and arrival all went well.

And now my thoughts are turned towards Haiti. And my 2 children there. I'm praying for their safe arrival here. I had stopped thinking of a timeline for that. I just couldn't see past parquet. And there's still a ways to go. But it doesn't look so bleak anymore. It really could happen by Christmas. Or not. But either way, I'm just thankful for the blessings of this week.

Tuesday, September 1, 2009

Dispense Granted!!!

Finally, our Presidential dispense has been granted. Yeah!!!!! Now we go back to Parquet, where we were last August. And we need to pray that we are signed out soon.

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

They are growing



This picture cracks me up because they have such a fake smile and pose. Actually it's a bit unusual for them. They usually seem so at home in front of the camera. I still love it.

And we're so thankful that Melanie is back at GLA and feeling better. She was home for a while after contracting Hepatitis A, which I'm sure was a mixed blessing. No fun to be sick, but it must have been great to be loved and cared for by her family.

On another note, I am so thankful for the dedication and commitment by all the orphanage workers and adoption staff who work so hard to move our paperwork through the Haitian system. I honestly don't know how they stay sane. Vera is an adoptive mom who also has a role in Haiti facilitating adoptions. She isn't connected with our orphanage but she is an invaluable source of information. Read this to get a feel for the madness that is the current state of adoptions in Haiti.

Sunday, August 9, 2009

July 25... 3 years and counting

We handed in our paperwork to adopt internationally to Community Services July 25, 2006. I never would have thought we would be here 3 years later with no end in sight. At the time, we thought it would take 6 months to complete our paperwork in Canada. It took 11 months to get our dossier to GLA.

Referrals used to happen fairly fast. Ours took 4 months.

Then it was supposed to take 12-18 months to complete the adoption. We're at the 22 month mark...

And counting.

There have been so many ups and downs in our journey. Times when I thought we might not be allowed to adopt from Haiti. No other country was an option for us. It was Haiti or nothing.

Times of energy.. rushing around to get things done.

But more often, times of waiting. With no word. No change. Nothing new.

There have been times of support from family, friends IRL (in real life,) and friends I've never met in person.

Times of real anguish and sorrow knowing that Peterson & Gaëlle are in an institution. They are just one of many children. Studies have been done to show the impact of institutions on development. Even great institutions. It just is not the ideal environment for young children.

Times when I've fantasized about moving to Haiti until this craziness is over. Robin and I have actually seriously considered that. We have a bit of a plan. But we just don't have peace.

So, here we are. One of my kids thinks I've lost my joy. This adoption is sucking me dry.

One song that always ministers to me is "Mighty to Save" by Hillsong. I know that God can move mountains. He rose and conquered the grave. What's a couple of bureaucrats in Haiti? I believe that if it were God's will, He could bring our kids home in weeks instead of the months that are ahead of us.

So, I'll continue to sing and pray.

Shine your light and let the whole world see,
We're singing for the glory of the risen King...Jesus


Tuesday, July 7, 2009

Adoption news

Well... it's not news for us, but it still gives me hope. Several families from our orphanage were pulled from parquet in November 2008 to get Presidential dispense (special permission) to adopt from Haiti. We joined them in April. To my knowledge, not a single family from that batch in November has gotten their dispense... until this week. Finally, a couple of families from our orphanage have gotten their dispense and moved back to parquet.

We're praying we'll join them soon!!!

Thursday, July 2, 2009

June update





This month's blog again was special because one of the full time staff took the time to write an extra long update. I can't even imagine how much time it must take to write such detailed letters for all of these kids in their care. This time it was Joyce, their teacher, and she made us feel like we were right there looking at Peterson & Gaëlle's every move. I'll just include a few paragraphs.

Last week we had a spelling list of common food in Canada and the U.S. The kids loved bragging about all the macaroni and cheese, hamburgers and French fries they would eat once they got home. I picked out a few of the special items from the grocery store for the kids to try on the Friday of their test. Peterson and his class got to try lucky charms cereal with cold vanilla milk first. The cereal was a huge hit. Peterson enjoyed the marshmallows and saved most of them for last. Next was craft dinner. I pulled out the macaroni and cheese and the kids looked excited. They started digging into their bowls and became a little disappointed with it. Most of them only managed to get three or four bites in before putting the rest back in the big bowl. Peterson was one of the kids that didn’t enjoy it and kindly asked if he could put his leftovers back. The last treat was ice cream sandwiches. The kids don’t have ice cream very often so it is a lot of fun to watch their faces as they bite into the cold ice cream. The ice cream was the favorite of most of the children and Peterson was well pleased with the messy treat that he managed to get all over his face and up and down both arms.

Gaëlle’s class received temporary tattoos as the end of class last week. Gaëlle held on to her tattoo tight when she was headed up the stairs while bragging about how Peterson was going to help her. She sure knew what she was talking about. All she had to do was run up to Peterson and show him what was in her hands. He grabbed her arm and headed right for the bathroom. Peterson asked her where she would like him to put it and she chose her arm. Peterson gently placed the piece of paper on her arm and carefully wetted it down. He held the tattoo close to her arm for a few minutes then lifted up just a corner to see if it was ready. Gaëlle could hardly wait and asked him many times if it was finished. Peterson simply told her to wait a little longer. Peterson finally lifted the paper off and there was a tiger on Gaëlle’s little arm. Gaëlle was so excited she sprinted out of the bathroom to show off her tattoo to all the kids and the nannies. Gaëlle was so proud of it and Peterson was really happy about the help he gave to his sister.

Friday, May 15, 2009

Not holding my breath




14 May 2009

We received 4 dossiers out of IBESR where the families have biological children and we did not need a dispensation! We talked to Parquet and they are saying that they are honoring a moratorium on all dossiers that arrived in IBESR by October 2008 and not requiring a dispensation for them! We took the 4 dossiers to Parquet today. Now we must wait to see if they actually will go ahead and sign the dossiers! One of these files has been in IBESR since January 2007! This is great news if they actually honor the moratorium and grandfather these dossiers through on the old policies that were ineffect at the time. This is also supposed to include all dossiers rejected by Parquet due to biological children back in 2008.

Keep praying because we have a lot of dossiers sitting in IBESR waiting for a dispense. This ruling would be a small gift from God if it truly is the policy fo now!


This is the latest from the GLA website. We have been out of IBESR since July 2008 and have been waiting to be signed out of Parquet ever since. We are waiting for presidential dispense. It would be wonderful if they would allow us to go through without it. But I'm not holding my breath.

Monday, May 4, 2009

April Update


Wow, it's been a while. I'm taking a month long course and it really consumes my time. So... this update came Thursday night and I'm just getting it up. The lady who normally sends our updates has gone home to the US because of severe illness. I haven't heard any recent news but I'm sure with some family loving and care, she will be fine.

All that to say... April's update was written by Joyce who teaches Peterson every day. So she knows him quite well. Joyce and Molly are both so busy with the kids that when they have the time to give an update, we treasure it. They both spend so much time with the children at the Toddler House and they write such heartwarming stories. Anyway, this is the entire thing.

We all had a wonderful time helping Peterson celebrate his 8th birthday. We
have individual birthday parties for the older children at the toddler house
and Peterson knew that his day was coming soon. When March 1st hit he
thought that he was pretty much there. Having to wait another fifteen days
nearly killed the poor boy. He waited patiently although you could tell he
didn't find it very fair having to wait for what seemed like years for a
birthday. When the day finally arrived you could see the anticipation on his
face the whole morning. Molly, the kids and I sang happy birthday to him
over and over and gave him so many hugs I thought he would never ask for a
hug ever again. He simple ate it all up. Peterson loved all the attention
and smiled, laughed and sang along to the songs and chants. Peterson's
nannies found out it was his birthday and they both planted big kisses on
either side of his cheeks. Molly went to Peterson and asked him what type of
cake he wanted. Peterson chose vanilla without hesitating and went on with
his game. Molly made a beautiful white cake with blue swirls and white and
green frosting. We decorated the school room and finally it was time for the
party. Earlier that day Peterson had chosen the seven kids that he wanted at
the party. He chose Robenson, Arry, Djoulynson, Jackson, Robbie, Venor, and
Remy. The kids ran down into the school room where Molly and I were waiting
to start the party. We asked Peterson what he would like to do first and his
eyes caught the presents and without hesitation he chose the gifts. Peterson
tore into the presents with excitement. He received bubbles with fun wands,
a volleyball, an activity book with coloring pencils, a recorder, marbles
and the favorite gift of all a new portable CD player with a CD to listen to
The kids squealed with excitement as Peterson opened the gift and his eyes
grew wide when he realized he received a CD player just for himself. After
the presents Peterson was ready for cake. He sat so proud as all his friend
sang to him at the top of their lungs and handed out high fives at the end
of the song. When the song was finished Robenson (a seven year old here)
asked if he could sing a special song for Peterson. Robenson stood up in
front of the small crowd and belted out the cutest and most random song for
Peterson. Peterson sat with a grin on his face watching as his little buddy
sang a very special song for his friend. After cake it was time for goodie
bags. Peterson grabbed the Spiderman goodie bags and passed them out to all
the kids. We asked Peterson what he would like to do next and he chose to
watch a movie. Peterson picked what he wanted to watch and we ended the
night with a movie.

Gaëlle has moved up to an older bedroom and is doing very well. Her temper
has slowed down and she becoming more obedient to the nannies. Her "diva"
attitude has seemed to die down a little. She is even helping the nannies
with little tasks such as helping make the beds in the morning, picking up
the clothes after bath time and running little errands for them. Gaëlle is
very competent and her nanny knows that if they need to send a message down
the hall to another room she can ask Gaëlle to do it and it will be done
properly. Gaëlle has no problem expressing what she wants to say and is a
very bright little girl.

Gaëlle started English class this month and is very co-opertive and usually
does as she is asked the first time. She does however like to show her
stubborn side at times and has had to sit in time out a few times this month
Gaëlle is learning her colorings, learning new songs and working on tracing
letters and learning how to follow direction. Gaëlle is usually up for any
thing we do in school but really enjoys build with her hands whether it's
building with blocks or sculpting with clay or using scissors.

Peterson is doing great in school and is catching up quickly. He is in
English class from 8:40a.m. Until 12:00p.m.with a twenty minute recess at
10:00. He is writing in his journal everyday and is able to put thoughts
together in English and get them down on paper. He is reading at an early
grade two level and his comprehension is close behind that. We are currently
working in the "American start with English" books and his class is halfway
through the third book. We are reading through the lesson pages (he is
reading it all without problem) and he is able to finish the workbook pages
each day with little to no help. He is usually the first to finish and
quietly without being told will get up and get his work checked then find a
book on the shelf to read. Peterson is by far by easiest student here and if
they all were a little more like him I probably would be a little more sane.
Peterson is getting 14/14 on his spelling test each week and is able to give
small explanations in English as to what each word means and is able to come
up with wonderful sentences in English as well. This week he had the word
"belt" that he needed to give a sentence for and he said in his sweet little
voice "I need a belt for my pants because my tummy is little and my pants
are falling." It was such a great sentence and I was so proud of him because
most of the kids like to give their little sentence and move on to the next
child. Peterson is also spending 3 ½ hours in Creole/French class and his
wonderful teacher Erlange tells me that he is doing great and is very
responsible and respectful.

Gaëlle and Peterson both had to say good bye to some of their good friends
in the last couple of months. Gaëlle warmly said good bye to 3 ½ year old
Vania and Wencia. Gaëlle kissed Vania on the cheek and waved good bye the
day she her mom and dad were coming. Peterson said good bye to his good
buddy Jackson who is 7 and Djoulynson who is 6. Peterson was very sweet and
was excited that they got to go home with their forever family.

On Sunday afternoon all the little kids were asleep and the big boys and
girls were outside complaining that there wasn't much to do so we got out a
bat and ball and started a baseball game. We just played the simple way
where whoever caught the ball would be the next person up to bat. We played
for a while and the kids started to really get into it. One of the bigger
boys was up to bat and the ball came right to me so I grabbed it and it was
just out of reach of Peterson. Well Peterson was getting a little
competitive and said a bad word to me that we don't allow the kids to use
here. Well the minute he said it he froze and realized he made a mistake. I
walked over to him and held his arm and told him he wasn't to use that word.
Well that's all it took, I crushed his heart. He broke down and was so upset
that he had to be corrected. He sat off to the side and was broken up. I
walked over and chatted with him and told him that I wasn't mad but I didn't
want him using this word anymore. He understood but still didn't like that
he slipped up and got corrected. Peterson is very sensitive and I think I
can probably count on one hand the amount of times he has actually been in
trouble.

I wanted to thank you guys so much for the three laptops for school. They
are such a blessing to have and the kids absolutely LOVE them. They seem to
keep the kids more interested in school than everyone having to listen to my
voice over and over (big surprise). The day after they arrived I brought
them home to the toddler house and started setting up our jump start games.
The kids were at the top of the stairs knowing that I was working on them
and they finally decided on which child was going to come down first to see
if they could come play. I told them that they were almost ready and but
they would have to wait one more day before playing. The kids all hustled
down and the topic came up as to where the computers came from. I turned to
them and said Petersons family sent them for us. Peterson clapped his hands
so proudly because he was the winner. A few of the kids gave him a pat on
the back and told him he did a good job. Later that day the boys were
hanging out outside and Molly overheard them talking about the laptops. One
of the kids said "We got new laptops," and Peterson with a proud voice said
"the big blue one is for me because my mom and dad sent them to me." No one
argued at all about that and decided that it was fine and Peterson could
have the blue one just for him.

Monday, April 6, 2009

Good & Bad News




Well, it happened. We've been kicked out of Parquet and over to Presidential Dispense. I've been waiting for this. Most of the families from our orphanage with bio children were sent to Presidential Dispense back in November. That's one reason I knew something was up with our file. Our orphanage knew too. Fortunately our file didn't stay lost but now that Parquet has had a chance to actually look at it, they've decided to "kick" us out. This was our email today.

Hello Robin and Beth,

I wanted to let you know that Peterson and Gaelle's file has been sent for a presidential dispense because of you having biological children in your family. This process has been taking several months at this time. Once the dispense is granted, then their file will return to Parquet to receive the Parquet approval.

I'm sorry that you will now have to go through another delay. At first, Parquet told us they were not going to require a dispense for your family because of their mistake of misplacing the file. But now they are insisting that the dispense be gotten.

I will be sure to let you know just as soon as the dispense is granted for your file.


So, what's the good news? I knew that this was probably going to happen. If not in Parquet, it could always be requested later by another office. So, finally it happened.

The bad news? Well, that's obvious. More delay.